Hair. It can be your best friend or your worst enemy depending on the day. I usually recognize when my hair has lost it’s sense of style. And I usually know what to do about it. Add a few highlights, trim a few ends, bangs deeper/longer/chopped up. Let it grow. Blahblahblah.
I was going through some photos the other day and I was reminded that I have had some iteration of a bob most of my life. In my mind, I was changing it up, but pictures don’t lie. There they are-23 versions of the same thing. A bob.
I remember when I was about 7, my mom made a comment about a woman at our church. Mrs. Oswald, about 50 at that time, was a woman of her time-always wore a hat, carried a pocketbook, wore gloves. And her hair was straight out of the 30’s. My mom, never one to miss a chance to comment, said,”Poor Mrs. Oswald. Someone told her in high school that her hair looked good like that and she hasn’t ever changed it.” Something like that. My mom changed her hairstyle often. Like many women, she copied Jackie Kennedy’s style when she could. Later, she had her hair “frosted,” changed colors within brunette, wore wigs when they were popular.
Fast forward, when my mom was in her 60’s, she, too, reverted to a time when she must have been told she looked pretty. She let the bangs grow long enough to be swept back and held in place by a barrette. Her hair always looked pretty-but not as current as she once was. I think she felt she had become a “woman of a certain age,” which for her meant she had no longer needed to think about her style. Something about that was probably liberating. But it also reflected her belief that she had become invisible. She wasn’t someone to “watch.” Thank goodness, today, there are influencers over 50+ very worth watching. Just go to Pinterest and find all sorts of terrific images for women 50+.
Funny thing about those celebrity icons. Over the years, I have often worn my hair the same way Kate Capshaw did. And it was usually a good thing. Last night on the Oscars, I caught a glimpse of her. I had decided to let my hair grow out from a messy bob. Make my bangs heavier, deeper and straighter. Now, I am thinking it might not be a flattering look for me. No disrespect, but I thought she didn’t look as modern as she could. Something that the icon, Estee Lauder, embraced.
It got me thinking. I will stick with wearing a bob. Someone once told me I looked pretty with my hair that way.